The kids are all gone and what was once your sweet little babies are now adults with their own lives, who call and visit once in a while. You have spent the better part of your life tending to the needs of these not so tiny people you birthed, so now what? Exactly what are you supposed to do now with all this time on your hands? Instead of filling this time with meloncoly nostalgia of photo albums and home movies or binge-watching everything on Netflix, its time to figure out positive ways to fill up your time..
Now that you are free from some responsibilities and can rediscover who you are. Here are some of the great ways you can enjoy your life now that the kids have flown the nest once and for all.
Sometimes there is nothing better after a day at work than kicking off the heels, putting your slippers felt on, wrapping up in a blanket, and vegging out on the sofa. You can do that now. As a matter of fact, you can sit on your couch completely naked and eat ice cream for breakfast and Oreo’s for dinner. You don’t have to cook dinner anymore. You can order take out and sit in a warm bubble bath eating Mushu Pork. You can go out after work with friends for dinner and not have to worry about who is watching the kids. You can sip wine and enjoy a facial or steam. Now that you have freedom enjoy it! Relax, put your feet up and enjoy the silence. If the silence is too loud then you will want to check out these other tips.
Date Night In
You don’t always have to go out in order to have a romantic date with your partner, in fact, you can make a romantic setting and have a lovely date in the comfort of your own home. One of you can choose to cook for the other or you can both make something together, and you can set the table, light candles, pour some wine and get dressed up for each other. Remember, you are alone in the house now. You can do whatever you want where ever you want and don’t have to worry about the kids catching you. You can experiment and try out some new stuff. Remember variety is the spice of life and nothing is spicier than an adventurous love life.
You are no longer tied down because of school schedules, soccer practice or dance recitals. You have the freedom to start ticking off items on your travel bucket list. Is there somewhere that you have always wanted to go but haven’t had the chance? What are you waiting for? Get going! Jet off when it is cheaper to book flights and you will be able to travel across the world with your partner and have some amazing adventures. Buy or rent an RV and tour the country, take a cross-country train ride and see America. Join a tour group and make new friends while visiting new places. You can join Road Scholars (previously named Elderhostel) and enjoy learning experiences combined with travel.
Try Something New
What keeps us young and our mind strong is learning new skills. So why not take up a hobby, go back to school, or take an art class. If you want to enjoy life, try something you have never done before. Go skiing or skydiving, surfing, rock climb or horseback riding. Do things you have never tried before and discover new things about yourself. I started a blog and a craft business. You’re never too old to find a new passion or to reinvent yourself.
Go Out on the Town
If you have a quiet night and you want to go out to see your friends there is nothing stopping you. You can all meet up at your local pub for a drink or even arrange to do an activity together as a group. Start hosting a weekly girls night with your friends, or attend one of those wine and painting events. With all the new friends you’re going to be making from all the new hobbies and adventures you will not be at a loss for opportunities to socialize.
What advice do you have?
What is a new hobby/adventure you discovered?