Like everyone else, when I heard about Amber Heard getting a restraining order against Johnny Depp, I was surprised. I couldn’t believe it. How could this man who was the epitome of romance in Chocolat ever do such a terrible thing? No not him, our beloved bad boy from 21 Jump Street. How could this “perfect” man do this? No! it’s not in his nature. This is Benny who loved Joon, not some monster. This man, who as a teenager I fell in love with and as an adult came to appreciate as a great actor could not betray us all like this. It was impossible for him to be a wife beater, he was famous for Pete’s sake. He could have any woman he wanted.
Then that word “betray” jumped out at me. As a survivor of domestic violence, I knew that word “betray” all too well. Betrayed is exactly how I felt when he first put his hands on me, my husband, the father of my children, my knight in shining armour who loved me to no end. BETRAYED I told myself there was no way this man I loved would hurt me, it was just some misunderstanding. My friends could not believe this man who loved me so much would ever lay a hand on me. They made excuses for him and convinced themselves and me that it was a one-time thing. But it wasn’t and he betrayed us all.
Johnny Depp was the standard by which we measured our men. If we could find someone to love us like Johnny in Chocolat. If we could find someone to make us laugh like Johnny in Benny and Joon. If we could find someone with those smoldering good looks like Johnny then he would be perfect. We built Johnny Depp into this perfect man in our dreams and now that we know the truth, that he has faults we feel betrayed. We don’t want to believe that this perfect man could be such a monster behind closed doors. We only had him in our dreams. Amber had him in real life. Imagine how betrayed she feels.